Still basking in the glow of my retreat in the high desert. As I mentioned the topic was Dealing with Death. It was powerful. Death is never a cheery topic but it’s an important topic.
The goal of the retreat was to create space where everyone could express themselves and talk about the confusion and chaos that often lingers after someone dies. We took a deep dive into the comforting Scriptures of Eternity and God’s providential love. Here is a link if you’re interested in those Scriptures.
My first encounter with death came early. It was the violent murder of my grandmother. It changed the whole dynamic of our family. My poor young mother had a nervous breakdown, and I took over her role as “mom” at the age of 10. Her emotional darkness left her present yet unavailable. My father was overwhelmed and checked out. This left me alone to process the devastating changes. But in this void my child’s heart knew I needed to pray. I memorized the Lord’s Prayer from a small plaque in my mother’s closet. I look back now and see myself small and alone, but I also see God drawing me to him.
Interesting that at this retreat there was two women who had also experienced a profoundly violent murder within their family. It was powerful to see God use my experience (from 50 years ago) to help this family process their darkness. It felt like the redemption of my trauma, turning my mourning into a beautiful gift. It made me think of the precious gentle movements of God. It brought life to the passage about comforting others with the same comfort we ourselves have experienced,
“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulation, that we may be able to comfort those who are in any trouble, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 2 Corinthians 1:3-4
Have you ever thought of that? How God could use the comfort you’ve received to comfort others? I feel strongly that if our comfort isn’t passed along WITH our sufferings, our sufferings are just that – sufferings. But if we share our experience of comfort our sufferings have the power to help another along their journey, an
d the cycle of comfort continues.
What goodness has God brought from your sufferings? Maybe you have yet to taste that kind of comfort in your sadness, that’s okay too. If something is lingering in your heart, reach out and let’s talk about it.